How connected do you feel to your moon cycle? To the rhythm of your moon time – your period – yes…
But also to the cycles of the moon itself – which are present and affect us whether we’re in our period, perimenopause or menopause.
The moon affects our emotions, energy, mood, desires and behavior on quite a deep level.
In our culture there can be a strong emphasis on the linear, masculine go-go-go Anthony Robbins style of “improve every day!” and “be PRODUCTIVE every day!”.
While that might be a great motivational mantra for testosterone saturated males, for most (if not all) women, the idea that we should be ‘on it’ every single day is a surefire way to drive us to exhaustion.
What I have found in my life – and I think you can relate to this – is that feminine consistency is a myth.
Let me say that again: feminine consistency is… yes: a myth.
There is simply no such thing as sameness for us women, and even if we could learn to master that, it’s not how we’re wired. It’s not how we’re meant to live.
The feminine thrives in cycles, and when we learn to ride the wave of our natural rhythms rather than resist them, then we can tap into an inner well of unbounded energy, softness, power, creativity and passion.
How we lost connection
√ A way of living that is disconnected from nature
√ Light pollution that makes it harder to connect with the moon and the night sky
√ Birth control pills and hormonal treatments that artificially control our cycle
√ Shame, fear and judgements about women’s moon cycles (and bodies, fluids, emotions…) as something bad, dirty or unwanted.
√ An out-of-balance 12 months calendar (rather than the feminine calendar of 13 moons/13 months in one year)
– all of this has brought most women out of touch with our intimate connection with the moon.
Personally I didn’t grow up with this connection. It is something that I’ve learned in just these last few years, and I’ve seen a tremendous shift in my life and feeling of ‘being in the flow’ since I started honoring my cycle.
Prem Gitama (who also happens to be my first tantra teacher at 17!) says it very beautifully and to the point:
“Because a woman’s energy goes through different stages of energy during her moon cycle, it is sometimes not easy to let all these energies flow peacefully.
In daily activities, we have a tendency to control it, which creates tension and disturbance in a woman’s moon cycle.
Some are overactive in their menstruation when they would be better to rest, whereas some rest too much during ovulation, when they should be creative.”
In other words – when we push ourselves to be all high energy and active during our period/new moon, it leads to imbalance and tiredness during ovulation/full moon when we would otherwise be bursting with life!
Living with our rhythms
What I do to honor this flow is that I plan a lot of activities before and during my ovulation. I keep my schedule more empty and spacious in the days leading up to my period, and the first day of my period I cancel any appointments and hit pause on the to do list.
(If I’m teaching a workshop that day I practice staying as soft, relaxed and ‘unclenched’ as I possibly can, and don’t expend any extra energy + make sure I get some alone time and rest.)
This day is my mini holiday and I spend it tuning in, turning inwards, downwards towards the Earth. I dance from my hips, or sit spiraling while humming into my womb.
I maximize the benefits of my inner genius, by using this introverted time to gather inspiration, inner knowing and clear vision – that I then act on in the more active phase of waxing moon and ovulation.
I rotate from my pelvis and do grounding and hip opening yoga postures like badhakonasana and malasana.
I rest on the Shakti mat and breathe deeply. If I am at home then I also do a moon blood meditation… (full instructions further down below)
And I have found that just giving myself this one day of rest and rejuvenation gives me so much more energy, harmony and balance for the entire rest of the month!