The Love-Whatever-Arises approach – the effortless path to loving the sh*it out of your ego

The Love-Whatever-Arises approach – the effortless path to loving the sh*it out of your ego

Photo by Bibbie Friman

I’ve been feeling the truth of this quite strongly lately.

Truth, meaning: not necessarily true in the absolute sense, but





In the field of personal development, the endless project of personal growth, the
“I should be further than this by now”-ness that is pervading spiritual circles like oil in the ocean – as well as in the non-dualistic conversation of “oh, just drop it, there is no such thing as the self”…

The Love-Whatever-Arises approach feels like the truest and the most effective way of living at this point.

It is the end of emotional struggle, the dissolution of pushiness, and an “oh, ehm… really??” kind of surprise for the ego that wants to hold us hostage in perpetual never-good-enough-ness.

So what exactly is the the Love-Whatever-Arises approach?

Matt Kahn says it beautifully:

Love whatever arises Ronja Venus

I don’t say this as a “conclusion” of any kind. Simply as an open ‘yes’, for now, and an open question:

Is the answer to love whatever we show up as – divinely or dysfunctionally human?

Or should we simply drop the story and realize that “there is no me”? And therefore there’s no need to love ourselves, since really, there’s no one here.

What’s your take on this? Would love to hear what you feel, think and say, in a comment below…

I shared the same posts a few days ago on my newborn facebook page (Like it here!) and here are some of the responses I got…

A bit long, so you can read if you like, haha. It’s always nice to share and be inspired by each other:


Love comments

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Add to the conversation by posting a comment below, and please share this with your friends.


Even in the midst of emotional weather happening – when it does arise – just keep on loving through whatever arises, melting the ice, and restoring the freed up energy into the stream of consciousness, connection and creativity…


Ronja Venus


Ronja Sebastian by Bibbie Friman


P.S. Come, come, beautiful woman.. You’re invited to dive into the warm bath of sisterhood.

21 & 22 November are the dates for the 2 LAST Women’s Workshops I will have this year in Europe!

Feminine Embodiment & Sensual Awakening

C’mon over and check out the details here.


P.P.S. My fiance Toby Sebastian and I are hosting a workshop 15-16 November in Utrecht…  Embodied Enlightenment. All details here


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      Hey Dean, thank you so much for you beautiful words, and I’m so happy that I could be of help!
      I wish you a wonderful day with lots of nourishment, healing, enjoyment and clarity xx

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