“Do you know... what the best thing to do is, when a woman is feeling emotional?” I asked.
“Ehm… Get the hell out and stay far away?”
His answer came out like a half-joke, and struck me as quite immature.
But if I’m totally honest… underneath that, his words spoke to a fairly universally known truth:
Most men are terrified of women’s emotional power and the tsunami-magnitude with which it sometimes comes out.
And if you’re like me and every single woman that I’ve ever met (very likely) then you have quite a big range of emotions.
You also don’t necessarily know why you feel the way you feel. It’s just… emotion.
Some days you wake up humming and brimming with gratitude, and other days it’s like you’re filled with sadness so deep that it can’t possibly belong to just you.
Some days you have patience more plentiful than Byron Katie, and other days you’re like a minefield of frustration.
“Why can’t I just be happy??” you ask. My answer:
Hormones, collective healing, empathy, the inevitable ebb and flow of the emotional waves…
It’s a big f-ing mystery, but hey – that’s life.
We often wish that our men could simply be present with our emotions instead of running away, collapsing or fighting back.
And while those men definitely do exist – the amount of men who can be effortlessly present with a woman’s emotional storms are about as rare as a sober person in a Goa party.
Most men flat out don’t know how to deal with our emotions.
And you know what – neither do most women.
Most of us are fairly unpracticed at staying open-hearted zen when the emotional rollercoaster hits the bottom of the curve.
What do we normally do?
We analyse it. We talk about it (as if that ever worked).
Most of all, we want the feeling to… Just. Go. Away.
And I get it, it’s uncomfortable.
But if you’ve ever tried making a feeling go away by resisting it, then you know how absolutely futile that is…
Whatever you push away will just grow stronger beneath the surface… only to spill out later – usually with crappy timing and onto someone who doesn’t deserve it.
(think: sudden anger outburst because your boyfriend asked you something with “the wrong tone of voice”, or something similar).
SO WHAT CAN WE DO ABOUT IT??
Well I’m glad you asked. :)
You do not have to get on antidepressants, hormone treatments or learn transcendental meditation.
You don’t’ even have to become “less emotional”, but can stay in the feminine fullness that you are.
Even magnify it. Because, as you’ll see, this is also a gateway into greater pleasure…
Here are 3 yogini-approved steps to dealing with any strong emotion – and end the inner fighting once and for all.
(if you’ve EVER felt intense sadness, anger, frustration or pain and wanted the feeling to go away, you need to watch this)
Make sure you watch right until the end… featuring a small animal, a big plant, and tingly body parts:
Above all – don’t beat yourself up or buy into the belief that something is wrong with you or that you’re crazy for being emotional. It’s part of the package deal of being a woman, and it’s part of being a feeling person.
You’re sensual, empathic and amazing, and the depth of your feeling only adds to the shine of your beauty.
Lastly, I wanna add two more tips from my emotional mastery kit:
#1: The above 3 steps work wonders for just about any strong emotion. But when you’re really deeply stuck in self hatred or unworthiness, then EFT/tapping can also be incredibly effective.
#2: And if you want a powerful boost to step 3 from the video, then I can warmly recommend the Emotional Cleansing CD by Peruquois, as a very loving companion.
And now over to you:
Have you put these 3 steps of emotional mastery into practice? How has it shifted you life? Any other insights or gems of wisdom you want to share?
With love, always,
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